Hello everyone!
It's that time of year again. Time for little lights, festive music and… well, sometimes a lot of complicated feelings too. As a therapist, I know the holidays can be hard. They can amplify joy, but also loneliness, sadness and stress.
If you're reading this and feeling a little off, I want you to know that you're not alone. Whether you're missing a loved one, feeling the weight of the world, or simply struggling to find the Christmas spirit, this post is for you.
Here's the truth: the holidays don't have a one-size-fits-all mold. They are different for everyone, and that's okay. Maybe this year, the holidays are about:
Reflect in tranquility: Honor the memory of someone you have lost.
Finding connection: Reach out to a friend or family member, even if you can't be together physically.
Take care of yourself: Give yourself permission to rest, recharge and say “no” to the things that exhaust you.
Create new traditions: Invent new rituals that bring you joy and meaning.
Whatever your holidays are this year, remember this:
Your feelings are valid. It's okay to feel sad, lonely, anxious, or just "meh" during the holidays. Don't judge yourself by your emotions.
Mourning has its own rhythm. If you have lost someone, sadness can feel especially strong at this time. Be kind to yourself and give yourself permission to grieve in your own way.
Comparing yourself is stealing your own joy. Don't compare your parties to what you see on social media or in the movies. Focus on what really matters to you.
You are stronger than you think. You've gotten through tough times before, and you can get through this one too.
Here are some things that might help you:
Seek support: Connect with someone you trust. Talk about how you feel.
Set limits: It's okay to say “no” to things that overwhelm you.
Take care of yourself: Prioritize sleep, healthy eating, and activities that bring you joy.
Practice mindfulness: Take a few minutes each day to focus on the present. Take a deep breath, observe your surroundings and let go of worries.
Be kind: Extend kindness to yourself and others. A small act of kindness can make a big difference.
Remember, you are not alone. Even in the darkest moments, there is always light. If you are going through a difficult time, seek support. There are people who care about you and want to help you.
I send you a lot of strength and human warmth during these holidays,
Sergio Perez
Masters-level Intern, Therapy Works Counseling
