"It's horrible! 'I don't know why you can't get pregnant, it's called unexplained infertility.'"

These are difficult words for a woman to hear. She feels so alone and isolated. How can something so beautiful be so easy for some women and so difficult for others? Infertility is taboo, especially within the Hispanic population. We come from huge families, with 10 aunts and uncles and 67 cousins. At every meeting, you're bombarded with questions about when you're going to start having kids because “you're not getting any younger.” They don't know that you simply can't, because according to science, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. It's just unexplained infertility.

You spend countless hours and thousands of dollars being examined, undergoing blood tests and additional scans and tests, waiting for the fertility doctor to find a problem. But they can't. So you're left in limbo. How do you explain this to your “fertile Myrtle” mother or your sisters who were able to conceive while using birth control? How can you tell your family why you can't get pregnant, and avoid the awkward conversations with your aunts telling you to take all these herbs and teas, and try different positions because that's how they got pregnant so many times?

It's horrible! Understand that you are not alone. Infertility is a deeply personal and often challenging journey that affects millions of women and couples around the world. The journey through infertility can be emotionally draining, causing stress, anxiety, depression, and even relationship strain.

How to Deal with Infertility

It is crucial to find ways to cope with the emotional burden of infertility:

1. Seek Support: Find support groups where you can share your experiences with others who understand.

2. Open Communication: Talk openly with your partner about your feelings and emotions.

3. Prioritize Self-Care: Engage in activities that bring you joy and help you relax.

4. Set Boundaries: Let your family know what you are comfortable with talking about your fertility journey.

Exploring Options

Remember, there are many paths to parenthood. If conventional methods are not successful, options such as adoption, surrogacy or foster care are available. Every journey is unique and there is no “right” way to become a parent.

Conclusion

Infertility is a challenging journey, but you are not alone. Seek support, communicate openly with your partner, and prioritize self-care. Embrace the incredible human being that you are, and remember that the options for becoming a parent are endless. Keep hope alive and believe in the possibilities ahead of you.