Being a new father or mother is an Adventure, without a doubt! However, there are difficult moments that we do not talk about often or if we do talk about it, it is in a negative context.
Next we will talk a little about what you can do to support the newly relieved baby and your partner.
Fatigue is inevitable. Some important things to remember is that sleep is critical to our processing of information and emotion. Support mother and partner the first days with a few hours of uninterrupted sleep, 3 to 5 are ideal, but a little is better than nothing. Entertain the baby, watch him while he sleeps, and when possible, feed him.
Mom, your hormones will make you feel that the world begins and ends with your new love. Sometimes these hormones can make us feel things more intensely. That's NORMAL! No matter what your birth was like, it is a strong, painful, and emotional experience. It is valid to feel fear, relief, anxiety, hope, sadness, and even more ALL at the same time. The brain is creating new connections to assimilate to this new reality; It will take a little time to get used to.
“The world is a dangerous place and I don't want to put my child in danger” or “I want to make sure my daughter doesn't come to harm” are common experiences for every new parent. When these thoughts begin to limit our activities, such as going to the market, taking care of yourself, or even not being able to feel connected to your child or partner, it is important to talk about it with someone you trust. These may be the antecedent symptoms of postpartum depression or anxiety.
If you, as a loved one, have noticed any of these symptoms in a new mom or dad, try starting a conversation with lots of compassion and empathy. Simply asking, "How have you felt about all these changes? It was difficult for us" can facilitate a deep and important conversation.
The emotional magic mountain can last for several weeks, but if you notice symptoms of insomnia, lack or excess of appetite, constant worry, or uncontrollable thoughts for more than 3 months, consult with your doctor or contact our offices to meet with one of our therapists who can support your postpartum season.
