The month of December can be a time of festivities and celebration for many. But it can also be a time of stress, sadness and anxiety induced by reunions.

According to a survey conducted by the American Psychological Association, "Nearly a quarter of Americans report feeling 'extreme stress' during the holidays. Holiday stress statistics show that up to 69 percent of people are stressed by the feeling of having a 'lack of time,' 69 percent are stressed by a perceived 'lack of money,' and 51 percent are stressed by the 'pressure to give or receive gifts.'"

Our experiences are shaped by our associations. So, although this month may be difficult, it is crucial to reevaluate our associations during this month and see the important messages that this season can remind us. Focusing on these messages can also help us relieve the stress associated with the holidays and help us build new associations with this month.

Here are some messages to refer to as you begin to struggle with holiday anxiety:

1. December as a time of joy- Try to focus on the things we can enjoy during December. Cool weather, friendly or cozy interiors, upbeat seasonal music wherever you go, breaks at school or work, hot chocolate (champurrado), apple cider, tamales, or Christmas movies, the list goes on. A joyful existence during these times involves appreciating the little moments. There are other ways that joy comes during the holidays:

2. ¡Connecting with family, friends and strangers! – We are social creatures. We are not meant to be lone wolves. December is a time when we have more opportunities to connect with others. Being present in the moment and creating new memories that we won't forget can help with isolation. During this season, try to make connections—even the smallest ones, like giving Christmas greetings to strangers!

3. Looking back/remembering: Just as the year is coming to an end, we remember memorable moments of the year. This is a time to reflect on what you liked and didn't like this year. We can also look back on our memories, perhaps a special memory of family gatherings or remember what December was like when we were younger. This can remind us why we enjoy this season so much or encourage us to make new associations.

4. Hope (spirituality and kindness): This month also seems to encourage people to reach out to others. It is easier to relate to others because of the shared experience that December brings. This brings us a sense of hope about the goodness of others and about humanity. This month is full of wonderful stories. An example is a story from World War I, on Christmas Day 1914, groups of German and British soldiers along the Belgian and French border laid down their weapons of war and celebrated an unofficial “cessation of hostilities” on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. The men sang Christmas carols in the trenches and even got up from their trenches and walked into the enemies' land to meet them in person. This story reflects our inner desires for peace. This month is also a time when many people, from different cultures, lean on their faith and spirituality. Both can be enriching experiences for us.

5. Spirit of generosity and gratitude – The last message that this month gives us is gratitude for the things we have or receive and the spirit of generosity. We exchange gifts, we are grateful for the people in our lives, and we delight in giving gifts and making people happy. One of the most powerful techniques in therapy is practicing gratitude. “Many studies over the past decade have found that people who consciously count their blessings tend to be happier and less depressed.” Another study “showed that gratitude predicted a significantly lower risk of major depression, generalized anxiety disorder, phobia, nicotine dependence, alcohol dependence, and drug abuse.” This season can be a good time to practice gratitude and use it as a coping mechanism.

Although there are other messages during this month, the 5 mentioned above are a good start for those who want to reevaluate our associations with this season. Despite the difficulties that come with the holidays, it is possible to find joy this time of year. Allow yourself to recognize the negative and positive feelings associated with this time of year and try to free yourself from those that do not help you.

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I believe that everyone has the ability to make positive changes to improve their mental well-being.

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